Most people seem excited and happy when I have good news in the book world but I’m getting kinda sick of talking to people who make others’ moments about themselves. And here’s the thing: even if you’re thinking it, now isn’t the time; you’re not a bad person for being frustrated with your own situation or even jealous, but my advice if you’re struggling with this is to think about how you would like your pals to react when it’s your time, and then think about how awkward and crappy it will feel if they aren’t able to celebrate your joy because they’re raging that it’s not their turn. You can separately feel frustration or jealousy or anything else in a different part of your brain from the genuine happiness you feel for someone who’s gotten good news, and those things can coexist–but preferably not in the form of what you choose to say in the moment.